Let It Go!

October 22, 2014 — Leave a comment

Acts 7:60
And falling to his knees he cried out with a loud voice, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them.” And when he had said this, he fell asleep.

That was Stephen’s comment as the Jews were stoning him for his testimony. I don’t know about you but I don’t think I have quite reached the point spiritually where I am that forgiving sad to say. What about you? Do you forgive easily or are you a grudge holder? Maybe you don’t hold grudges and you do forgive easily but someone has hurt you to the level of your not being able to find it within yourself to forgive them yet.

It is time to let it go! I forgive easily but I have had a time or two in my life where I was just so overwhelmed with hurt that I found it difficult to forgive. When you get to that point the thing to remember is that forgiveness doesn’t set the other person free, it sets you free! You are not excusing wrong, you are choosing to let it go and choosing to forgive, it doesn’t mean you aren’t hurting and it doesn’t mean you have to trust that person but it means you are choosing to let it go and move forward so you can be healed and so can they as they get their hearts right with God. I have said time and time again; “holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Let it go, the other person probably either doesn’t even know you are still upset or maybe they don’t care so just choose today to release yourself from those frustrated feelings and choose to ask God to help you to forgive and give it all to Him!

Healing comes only after we make the decision to let it go and forgive. You will never find healing in the midst of unforgiveness, it just cannot happen, that is like expecting clothes to dry outside on a line in the middle of a rainstorm. It is a choice to forgive and until you do you are bound in chains right where you are in life, you cannot move forward. If you are divorced and still holding onto bitterness do not move forward in another relationship because it will not be a healthy one. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you won’t remember all the hurts, it means those past hurts don’t rule your days. God wants to heal your heart but you have to give it all to Him! Don’t let another day go by allowing that hurtful past ruin your present and your future, you have too much potential in your future for that! Choose God’s grace and forgiveness today, both for yourself and for anyone else in your life you may need to forgive!

“You can’t have rosy thoughts about the future when your mind is full of blues about the past.” Tidbits

Proverbs 18:21
Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Vain stupid useless powerless negative words grieve God!  Do you ever just have those days where you realize that your mouth is stuck in a rut and all it is doing is spewing out negative garbage and you aren’t too sure how to stop it?  I have had those moments where I knew that I was doing it, but I just kept going and at the same time wondering why I wouldn’t or couldn’t stop.  I didn’t need anyone else around to beat me up because I was the heavy weight champion that day, knocking myself out!

Don’t ever say, I’m too fat, I’ll never lose this weight,  I never do anything right, I’m not pretty, I’ll never get that job!  Words are a container for power!!  There’s more power in your words than you realize! Be careful what you are speaking over yourself and your family! Be careful what you say and the thoughts you dwell on where your spouse is concerned as well! Don’t sit around all day allowing the negative consume you because it will eat away at whatever good there is. Focus on the positive things about your spouse and pray for God to work on whatever He sees that needs to be worked on in your life, your spouses life and your children’s lives. Be careful that your words aren’t tearing them down.

Ephesians 4:29-30
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is
helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit
those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you
were sealed for the day of redemption.

According to the Bible we will give an answer for every idle, powerless, useless word we speak!  If you are struggling with negativity get in your Bible more and talk to God about it then speak it!  God has promised Healing for our mouths if we give Him control!

Proverbs 16:24
Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

“The core problem is not that we are too passionate about bad things, but that we are not passionate enough about good things.”  –  Larry Crabb

Psalm 100:4
Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name.

I love going to church and I love the atmosphere that is so full of worship and praise! I grew up in the church so I guess I feel a certain sense of comfort and joy to just take in all that Sunday morning in church has to offer. I love to serve in the church too and I have missed out on that for quite a few years because of the ministry and this last year due to illness, but I am looking for new opportunities to get involved again.

There are so many people who are frustrated and disgruntled with the church today and my question for them would be; then what are you doing to change it? Complaining and fussing doesn’t honor God – Jesus saw what was wrong with the “church” when He saw the money changers and He didn’t just run around whining about it, He threw them out! It is time for each of us to rise up and do what we can to make our churches reflect Christ! We need to be sure that the message that is given is one that honors God, His love and His restoration and His grace and mercy shown to us in the Gospel. If we, the body of Christ – the church, would focus more on the “gospel” of Christ and His desire for each of us to become all we can be in Him we would be more forgiving, loving and merciful to others, correcting in love where correction is needed with the desire to bring everyone to God so we can all serve Him in the capacity He created us to serve. Pray for one another and serve one another so we can each be a part of helping each other become all we can be for Him.

Now, since we know that the “church” isn’t just a building then we need to be a part of reflecting Christ every day, not just on Sunday! The blessing of attending church is assembling together with other believers and having time together to worship God and to become more like Him in the process, we each need that fellowship. How do you spend the rest of the week? Are you counting on that one day a week to fill you up and then you can coast through until the next Sunday or are you filling up every day in His word and with time each day to praise Him for all He has done and all He is? You don’t have to wait for Sunday to enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise, do it every day.

“Life begins when you do.” Hugh Downs

Romans 8:35
“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

How often when you are going through really tough times in your life do you feel as though you are on your own? I know I have had times when I have felt as though my heart couldn’t take any more and somehow it seemed like God had gone on vacation because I couldn’t seem to grasp His presence. I felt that when I was needing Him most He seemed distant even though I knew that everything in scripture told me that wasn’t the case.

When you are struggling and the battle is overwhelming remember this: It isn’t that God isn’t near, He is closer than you can imagine it is that your mind can be so consumed with the stress and worry the situation has brought on to the point that you are no longer capable of sensing the quiet presence of God as He holds you, works in you and is keeping track of your every tear. God would never leave you during your struggles in life, His desire is for your good. There are times in each of our lives when God has to allow things in our lives because He knows that in the long run we will grow and benefit from it and we will be better equipped to serve Him and it will prepare us better for life down the road. The benefits you will receive in the long run will far outweigh the days of adjusting even though you can’t see that right now.

Whatever you may be facing right now I would encourage you to trust that God is there and He does have a great future and Hope for your life! Don’t give up and don’t believe Satan’s lies telling you that God isn’t there or that He somehow doesn’t care. He cares more than you could possibly imagine and He will carry you through this if you allow Him to. Pray for His comfort and blessing today and know He is right there walking next to you in all that you do!

“Regardless of your lot in life you can build something beautiful on it.” Zig Ziglar

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Dr. Greg Smalley

Dr. Greg Smalley

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